Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. Thanks very much for your reply and for your advice! After some thought, I think you're right and I might just see how things develop, it could evolve into something more naturally.
And if I choose to tell her my feelings, I will wait until a time where I could bare not having her as a friend and I'm not so dependent, if it came to that, which hopefully it wouldn't.
Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones. You are currently: Home Get support Online forums. Online forums Before you can post or reply in these forums, please complete your profile Complete your profile. Cancel The title field is required! Hi, My best friend and I have known each other and been super close for more than 6 years.
And only recently the last year or so have I began to realise that I am actually in love with her. She knows I'm bisexual which I'm still struggling with, she's the only person who knowswhen I first told her a few years ago she had a negative reaction, but now we're all good and she supports me and loves and accepts me.
But it's getting so painful to be around her, because I like her so much. We hang out all the time and call and text, any time she messages I drop whatever I'm doing to respond, I'm just so happy when I'm with her, and it's never like this with other people.
We're very open and honest, and she tells me things she doesn't tell other people, and we touch and hug a lot. She's had 3 boyfriends, but always broken up with them for vague reasons.
A few months ago when discussing her recent breakup she said 'Am I even straight' in a joking kind of way though. Bottom line is, her friendship means the world to me and I don't want things to get weird, I don't know if I should tell her how I feel because of her dating history and when she talks about marriage and kids and stuff it's heterosexual. But we're always holding hands and we're just different together than when we're with other people. I'm scared that if I tell her she will reject me and things will get weird, and that every time we hug or have a sleepover or something, it'll be uncomfortable and that our friendship will never be the same again.
Sometimes I consider ending our friendship because I can't deal with this, but I need her in my life and vice versa. I don't want to jeopardise our friendship because its the best thing I have but at the same time, I feel like I'm about to explode keeping it all inside.
Please any advice would be helpful! Thanks so much.
Birdy77 Valued Contributor. Dear EW, I could really relate to your post. It's a tricky situation, especially as your friend has alluded to being interested in exploring things away from purely heterosexual when she said "am I even straight?
But I would be wary of instigating anything with her, or revealing your feelings for her, because losing her friendship is a risk you don't want to take.
That being said, there could come a time where things just happen between you I can't advise you on what to do, but I can tell you what happened with me, and that is that something more did evolve between us, but it didn't go anywhere, and it was never meant to be. Many, many years later, here we are, still great friends, her with a husband and 4 kids and me with my beautiful female partner.Please leave empty:. Comfortable - we're good friends.
I want to kiss her. A little uncomfortable, but not really awkward. Really comfortable. I feel like we're more than friends. For as long as I can remember. Around a year. A few months. A few weeks. All the time! About once a day. A few times a week. About four times a week, give or take. Only occasionally. You are having a sleepover together. While watching TV, she puts her arm around you. What do you do? I hug her and rest my head on her shoulder, maybe kiss her. I cuddle her. This is great!
I let her - she's only being friendly. Let her, but feel really awkward. Push her away!
While at the sleepover, you have to sleep in the same bed. She has to borrow some pajamas.To create this article, 13 people, some anonymous, worked to edit and improve it over time.
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Les4mabae It sounds like you're in a tough situation,bi girl, if you're sure she doesn't support lgbtq you would probably try to move on. But if you're not, you should get info first hand. Wait for the rite moment to tell her, maybe you will get lucky! And try to stay friends with her if she doesn't return feelings. Good luck! Differentgirl Fiona, if you're out there, I just want to say, I love you! Way more than platonicly, it's not likely you will come across this, but if you do, I hope we can stay friends if you don't like me back With love, " Addo ".
Probably not, sorry. Hey, whoever " :' " is, were you talking to me? Bi girl I need some advice, someone, plz help meeeee!!! I have a girlfriend. But I think I'm catching feelings for this other girl that I have known for basicly my whole life, and sometimes things get akword between us.
I don't know what to do. Its a les Brin you do you maybe gibe her a scenario kinda hinting at it and see how she reacts if good then tell her if not just don't tell her till your ready. Brin I like her. But i dont know how much One time I had a dream where me and her got sexually active I couldn't control the dream.
It just happened. She said she was bi Should I tell her I like her.? Or no What if she doesn't wanna be friends anymore I don't want to lose her.I met a new friend 7 months ago and we clicked right away. I have always considered myself to be straight although I have never had a boyfriend I am 20 and have no problem with lesbians as far as I know.
I will call my friend Jenny age I had never really had a close friend and it was new to me. Once Jenny and I were talking on the phone and when we went to say goodbye she said that she loved me for the first time. I didn't know what to say, and I even thought that it must just have been a mistake.
The next time I saw her, she hugged me when I left. Now, we hug almost every time we part and we always text and tell each other that we love one another. Every morning we send texts to each other and we text throughout the day and talk a lot as well on the phone.
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We meet almost every night after work too until really late. We never get tired of one another. For the next couple months, Jenny would always link arms with me and hold my hand. But then she stopped all of a sudden for a while. Then, within the past month, things have escalated a bit in a great way. Jenny always calls me love, honey, or my dear and I absolutely love it. Beyond that, she will touch the tip of my nose with her finger sweetly and pat me on the head. I love that too.
When we watch movies in bed or have sleepovers we always touch our legs or feet together and are always close to one another. A few times when we watch movies on the couch, she will hold me and hug me tight. She held me this way for 30 minutes the other night and my heart fluttered the whole time.
She would rest her head on mine and pull me closer. It was so great. Jenny is going through a lot in her life because of her parents getting a divorce. She feels really abandoned and she tells me how much she appreciates me. She has always been super close with her mom, but now that her mom has a new boyfriend, Jenny feels replaced by him in a lot of ways.
I don't know what I should do. Part of me wants to tell her, but I think I should just wait it out and see what happens.
Maybe tell her someday We have a big trip planned in 5 months for two weeks. And we always talk of getting a house and starting a business together soon.After realising my feelings for Mia, it made me question what I found arousing about men.
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I realised it was their desire for me. I feel upheld to my highest self so I have to keep growing. Skip navigation! Story from Life Begins At.5 SIGNS YOUR BEST GUY FRIEND HAS A CRUSH ON YOU!
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Sex now is tender and intimate. Do the pair, who are both in their 50s, recognise themselves or their relationship anywhere on screen? We have the author of Eat Pray LoveElizabeth Gilbert who was in a same-sex relationship with her late best friendthe woman who wrote the Moomins and my mum, who I found out recently was in love with her best friend but neither would leave their children so they wrote long, hand-delivered letters to each other, every day.
It made me think that if people had been more accepting when I was growing up, I might have opened up in that way too. The growth in representation of LGBTQ characters mirrors the fact that culture is more accepting now than it ever has been. Basically, they were a threat to men.
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